Today’s exercise from Mind-Made Prison.
General Wealth
List what you consider to be your current/past rules on wealth. Right or wrong. Embarrassing or not. Time to face the music.
What has to be fulfilled before you feel wealthy?
a) being able to buy everything that I want without prolonging the purchase
b) not having to worry about going out or doing anything because of money
c) not having to work a job I hate in order to have a paycheck
d) being able to buy people I love whatever I want
e) buying all the clothes, makeup, protein powders I want
Are your rules in this area of life improving or decreasing the quality of your life?
a) Difficult to answer because I haven’t achieved these “goals” so I don’t know if they would decrease the quality of my life. Objectively looking at it, it seems that it would improve it.
But mentally, these rules are probably decreasing the quality of my life because they are superficial and creating a road block on me moving forward on my real goals that would help me achieve happiness.
Do you want to keep or change these rules?
a) Honestly I would like to keep them because I would like to be able to afford things that I want and want for others. I want the flexibility to follow what I really want to do. The best case scenario would be being able to achieve them whilst doing what I love.
If you want to change them, go ahead and decide your new rules for this area right now.
A) Like I said, I don’t necessarily want to get rid of these goals but I definitely want to add new ones.
B) Staying healthy
C) Being fit and being able to compete and be leaner
d) being able to be completely satisfied with my body and being able to balance a social life at the same time
e) finding friends that have the same interests as me and that I can really relate to
f) not worrying about what other people think of me and think they are judging me for not having a ‘prestigious” job
Attractiveness
What has to be fulfilled before you feel sexy?
A) Lower body fat
B) leaner thighs
c) six pack
d) being taller but that’s not possible
e) nicer nose
f) nicer calves
Are your rules in this area of life improving or decreasing the quality of your life?
a) decreasing because it makes me have body dysmorphia issues
Do you want to keep or change these rules?
A) I do want to change them but I do have certain goals because I want to be able to complete and be more athletic
If you want to change them, go ahead right now
A) Being healthy
b) Enjoying food I love in moderation
c) being able to go out and enjoy a meal with friends and family without guilt
d) having a balance
Success
What has to be fulfilled before you feel that you are successful in life?
This is pretty redundant with the first section for me….
a) having a prestigious job that makes everyone respect me and think that I am smart
b) making a lot of money
c) making my family proud of me
d) having people listen to me and looking up to me
Are you rules improving or decreasing the quality of your life?
They are decreasing it for sure. I have a twisted sense that I’m not worthwhile unless I have a really “important” and high paying job. I want people that don’t even know me to respect me. I want to seem better than I am.
Do you want to keep or change the rules?
Of course I want to change it. This is my biggest problem. I want to get rid of this terrible mind habit I have that this is important and will get people to respect me.
New rules:
a) Get people’s respect through kindness, laughter, positivity, creativity, passion, and genuine light from within
b) Do what makes you happy. Don’t put prestige and money first.
c) never work a day in your life. Don’t have a life where you are looking forward to the weekend and dreading the Monday to come.
d) stop thinking that you can’t.
e) understand that it’s ok to be afraid but don’t let it trap you
Love
What has to be fulfilled before you feel loved?
a) These are the rules that I have that I want to get rid of. When people call me to hang out.
b) when people ask for my advice
c) when people will do things for me
What has to be fulfilled before you feel you love someone?
a) butterflies
b) not thinking about myself first
c) actually caring about their day
d) actually feeling genuine pain when I have wronged them
e) going out of the way for them
f) wanting to give them presents from the heart such as hand drawn cards
Are your rules in this area improving or decreasing the quality of your life?
– I’d say that the rules I have for BEING loved are decreasing it.
New Rules
a) When someone smiles at me
b) When someone says something kind
c) when someone gives me honest truth
d) when someone supports me to do what makes me happy.
There are more areas to cover but that’s for tomorrow…